Say you’re about to talk to your boss, and you already know it won’t go your way. Feel that? That tightness is you fighting reality before it’s even happened.
We live life as if we are sorting what is good, and what is bad. This thing we want in our life. That thing we do not. And we fight it. We fight not to have, not to experience what we do not want in our life, and we fight to get what we desire in life.
So back to the boss. You’re stressed from it. To a degree. Depending on the perceived risk, the history, and other things, you know your life better.
You prefer an agreement. Let’s imagine it as a circle. And the boss objecting, or disagreeing, let’s call that a square. So the mere fact that you want it to be a circle, while it is a square, is stressing you. But what if you allow the square to be a square, and a circle to be a circle? What if both are okay? What if any of these options are okay?
You see, this is where people mistake simple for weak. Because in my experience, if you merely allow a circle or a square to be okay, you are okay, even if it is a square, even if the boss disagrees with you, even if you know you are going to say things they are not going to like, and you are okay with them not liking it. Then you are much calmer. In the flow. Flow is being with what is: if it is a square, good; if it is a circle, good.
They will not like what you say? Call it a triangle. And you are good with the triangle? Fantastic.
For years I have used simple techniques to transform my life. For over fifteen of them I have not used pain medication, and I have transformed my life in so many ways. How? By consistently using powerful techniques that did not require me to learn new jargon or complicated methods, starting exactly where I am.
There is much more to it. Curious to learn more? If you’d rather not walk it alone, I work with people one-to-one.
I’m not a doctor or therapist. This is a simple practice I’ve used for years, shared as my own experience — not medical or psychological advice.